Showing posts with label mornings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mornings. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Dan Patrick Crushed My Morale



I am a sports fan.  I share my enthusiasm for sports with my significant other, M. What we do not share is a liking for day-long sports news updates provided by ESPN streaming via the TV in the living room.  It’s turned down to a low volume thanks to my numerous pleas.  But it is always on.  Other sports networks show up as well.  M is not an ESPN loyalist.  But I am not aware of what the other sports news outlets are, nor do I care, unless the news is about the Pittsburgh Steelers or the broadcaster is Dan Patrick.

Over the years, in an attempt to connect with M, or use him as a pillow while taking a short nap after getting the girls off to school, I would join him in watching Mike and Mike in the Morning airing on ESPN.  The show became annoying to me because the hosts, Mike Greenberg and Mike Golic, were repetitive, lacked in-depth analysis, and in my opinion, seemed afraid to share their true opinions on topics they covered.  So one morning, after Mike and Mike, M turned the channel over to The Dan Patrick Show assuring me I would enjoy the host, Dan Patrick, much better.  The fact that he was a native of Ohio and defector of ESPN also intrigued me.

As time went by, Mike and Mike became completely replaced by the Dan Patrick Show.  On mornings when I chose not to be lazy and nap in front of the TV with M, I found myself choosing to do sedentary work on my laptop (in lieu of housework which requires movement) so that I could strategically place myself in view of the TV so as to not miss the Dan Patrick Show.  But the day I can say I officially became a fan of Dan Patrick was when his show aired the morning following the weekend that the  Penn State child sexual abuse scandal broke in the media.

I was glued to the show for the entire week.  No napping.  No work.  Just watching. Dan Patrick’s coverage of the child sexual abuse scandal at Penn State was phenomenal.  No other show or network, covering sports or headline news, gave it comparable reporting.  Dan Patrick’s handling of the topic was intelligent, factual, sensitive to the victims, heavy handed on the alleged perpetrator and conspirators of cover-up, and gave voice to victims of child sexual abuse.  In essence, he put down his sports reporting notepad and pencil and picked up a poster printed with bold lettering, “CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE IS WRONG.”

As a survivor of child sexual abuse, to me, this was powerful stuff.  Typically when stories like this reach the media, controversy and debate ensue giving more voice to the alleged perpetrators in order to maintain the façade that powerful institutions are impermeable to such horrific accusations.  Movement is usually swift in protecting the establishment’s reputation.  Cover up is priority.  Excuses are mandatory.  But this was not the case with the story in the hands Dan Patrick.   

He took time to tell his viewers of the impact that child sexual abuse has on victims—the damage it does to victims' lives for years into adulthood.  He would not be moved by callers with varying opinions of Joe Paterno's status as coach of the Penn State football team.  Paterno knew of the crimes committed and failed to report them to authorities other than higher ups at the university.  Dan Patrick bravely stated, “Joe Paterno has lost the right to be the head coach of Penn State.”  He even took calls from victims of child sexual abuse, allowing them to share bits of their stories.  Callers always ended with an outpouring of gratitude, thanking him for using his show to shed light on a topic that gets swept under the rug far too often.

Dan Patrick is good at what he does. I'd say, he is one of the best.  He gives insightful commentary on sports news and couples it with clever entertainment in his banter with his show's supporting cast.  He's a stand-out co-host on NBC’s Football Night in America and was bestowed the honor of presenting the Super Bowl XLVI trophy to team winning quarterback, Eli Manning.  He has also made several appearances as an actor on the silver screen and I think he’s talented enough to take over for the menacing David Letterman.  So yes, I am a fan of Dan Patrick. . .

. . .or was, until last week.

I had been aware of The Dan Patrick Show's Wall of Morale but had never given it much attention.  If you aren’t familiar, the Wall of Morale is an area in the show’s studio devoted to posters of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition covers.  I must have missed viewer competitions from years past wherein votes are cast to determine which poster comes down off the wall to make room for the current cover.  But last week I caught this year’s ridiculous hoopla while peaking over the screen of my laptop.  And I was angry.

"With great power comes great responsibility."
~Stan Lee
I truly believe that when one has been given talent they are charged with using that talent and sharing it with the world in order to make change.  The change doesn’t always have to be magnificent in the number of people affected, nor does it have to have the impact to be a catalyst of world peace.  One's work, even if it changes only one person for the better, is significant. It’s not for the talented to determine if his impact is going to be great enough to make a difference. The talented only needs to determine how much fear he will allow to get in the way of his expression.

When Dan Patrick covered the Penn State scandal with such skill and insight he raised the bar for sports journalists and broadcasters.  He courageously answered his call and responsibility as a man with talent.  He embraced his position of having a powerful voice in the media and used it as an opportunity to raise awareness.  His was a shining moment in broadcasting and one in which the world of news media should use as a lesson in ethical and honorable reporting.

Contrarily, for him to devote so much of his show's time to making the decision of which model to keep on the Wall of Morale, making the objectification of women a colossal event, was not only wrong, but a horrific departure.  I was deeply, incredibly disappointed.  In my eyes, another great voice failed to go "against the grain" and sold-out in the name of a pay check.

Dan Patrick must not have been aware of findings from the APA Task Force on the Sexualization of Girls and cited by Miss Representation that indicate:
  • the hyper-sexualization of women is linked to depression and eating disorders. 
  • the pornification of women in main stream media is numbing boys and men to the true value of women. 
Dan Patrick had an opportunity to speak on the crisis of the objectification of women in America to an audience wherein the message is desperately needed and to an audience who has his full attention—sports fans.  He proved he can make a difference in how people view critical cultural topics during his coverage of the Penn State scandal.  In his silly enthusiasm over the Wall of Morale, he succumbed to fear—fear of losing members of his fan base, fear of losing support of SI.com who hosts his show’s website, and fear of looking less macho to a world full of hot women who he refers to as “shorties” and  then jokes about making room for them in his bed.
 
"Every society has a way of torturing its women, whether by binding their feet or by sticking them into whalebone corsets. What contemporary American culture has come up with is designer jeans."
~Joel Yager, M.D.

One last point.  Dan Patrick has a daughter.  All I can surmise is that he does not find raising a daughter in a world that objectifies women to be challenging.  I really wish I could ask him how he does it.  Does he tell her it’s OK to be valued for sex?  I bet he does not.  And I bet, one day, she’ll identify his hypocrisy and be as disappointed in him as I am.




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Saturday, January 7, 2012

Morning Mastery


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I have been feeling pressure to create a New Year’s resolution.  Where is this pressure coming from? All the resolutions I’ve seen posted on Twitter this week?  No.  All the “Best of 2011” lists that didn’t include Sperk*?  No.  From a place within that is nagging for change? Yes.

In doing some serious self-examination, I realized that most things I want to change in my life could be altered simply by changing my daily routine.  The girls are gone for the weekend which allowed me some time to explore different tools that could support this theory and create a plan of action. 

I came across this list at a blog called The Change Blog, written by Peter Clemens, which I think is ideal. It consists of 24 things to incorporate into my day.  Some I already do—most I do not. 24 seem like a lot and I am feeling intimidated by it.  But I am going to give it a try.  I expect positive changes to occur because of its implementation and I plan to keep you updated. 
  
The Morning

  1. Wake Early: I typically wake at 6 a.m. which is 30 minutes before Sophia wakes.  I am going to wake earlier to allow time for the subsequent activities on the list.
  2. Exercise: I used to be a dancer and very much in shape.  I used to workout daily until I went back to school. I used to, I used to, I used to. I miss exercise and the benefits it has for my brain. I am looking forward to adding physical activity back into my daily routine. 
  3. Review or (even better) Rewrite Your Goals:  Goal number one is to implement this list.
  4. Read and/ or Listen to Motivational Material: I have a box full of inspirational readings on discs. I’m going to dig those out.  I already have a daily quote app on the smartphone.  I’ll continue using it because it provides inspiration.
  5. Visualize the Day Ahead:  This seems like a good idea.
  6. Write a “To Do” list: Already implemented.  I use Cozi .
  7. Check the News Headlines: Already implemented, however, I need to put a time limit on it. My “read later” list in Diigo is enormous.
  8. Take a Multivitamin: I have some. I need to check the expiration date.
  9. Tidy Up: Will do in the morning, as list suggests, instead of ten minutes before kids get home from school.
  10. Take Time to Look Good: Will do because it makes me feel better.  I will do this in the morning instead of five minutes before kids get home from school.

Items 11-17 are tasks to include during the day.  Items 18-24 are tasks to include in the evening.  I am looking forward to implementing all 24 tasks, but am only going to commit to the morning tasks for now. I will add day and evening tasks once I have the morning mastered. I am giving myself a one week deadline to master the morning list and will compose items 11-24 during number 6.  [The real reason I have abandoned creating day and evening lists is that I find the Lego Friends controversy more interesting (see item 7)].


 


Monday, December 5, 2011

Murky Monday


Mondays are typically awkward for the mere fact that weekends are too short.  I just get used to a more free-form schedule and the alarm goes off. 6:00 a.m. “What day is it?”  Oh yes, the murkiness that infiltrates my brain signifies it is Monday. Back to the rigid schedule. Up early to support children in their efforts to independently get ready for school.  The daze and confusion usually dissipates by the time they get out the door on their way to school.

I have worked persistently at encouraging them to do for themselves what they can.  Of course, Dr. Maria Montessori was correct when she said, “Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.”  This includes supporting them in doing the stuff in the morning routine on their own.  I always get up with them.  A parent’s presence is very impactful to the child.  But I will not do things they can do for themselves.

Except for today.  They have had sore throats and ear aches for a week.  Today they crawled out of their beds looking like they belonged back in their beds.  I brought Antonia her breakfast to her in bed.  Assured Sophia that if she can’t get through theater rehearsal, it would not be the end of the world.  I emailed the director of the musical explaining the sickness and asked what Sophia should do.  Sophia seemed relieved by this.  She also seemed relieved when I said I would make her a doctor’s appointment and get her out of school to attend.  Antonia is going, too.  They both WANT to see the doctor which makes me wonder if I should have taken them last week.

I had big plans for today.  Integrating new tools for organizing the week so that we operate more smoothly around here.  But, as it turns out, it will be somewhat normal today.  Taking it as it comes or flying by the seat of my pants. 

Tomorrow I’ll let go of the old clichés.  Possibly while the girls are home getting well.  And without the murky Monday brain.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

A Morning in the Life


Day two of the “About Me” blogging exercise.  Routine and rituals are important for kids.  I thought if you had a glimpse of our morning routine, complete with most rituals, you’d get to know Sperk* a bit better.  Here’s a timeline:

6:00 a.m.             
  • Open Eyes, check to see if breathing, if yes, continue
  • Make Sophia breakfast which consists of a Balance Bar and a cup of 2% milk
                            

6:15 a.m.               
  • Wake Sophia 
  • Sit across the table from Sophia, both have our laptops, and discuss what we have found interesting online 
  • Play Fashion Story, WordFeud, and Words with Friends
  • Check Twitter, read articles and blogs of interest, save thought-provoking items in Diigo
  • Check Cozi Family Calendar
                     

                             

                   
 6:45 a.m.              
  • Sophia gets ready for school
  • Open Spotify
  • Pack Sophia's lunch which usually consists of a sandwich with processed meat, cheese, and mustard; apples (sometimes strawberries); carrots; a bag of chips; and a Horizon Organic Chocolate milk

 
7:00 a.m.              
  • Tend to Sophia’s wardrobe, chore, and after school requests/needs
  • Let dogs out. (Bexley has an ordinance wherein residents cannot have barking dogs out before 7am or I would do it sooner)
7:15 a.m.              
  • Make Antonia’s breakfast (same as Sophia’s)
  • Let dogs in

7:25 a.m.              
  • Wake Antonia 


 
7:30 a.m.               
  • Drive one mile with Sophia in passenger seat of car. Drop her at BMS.



7:35 a.m.             
  • Home. Listen to Antonia’s complaints which usually consist of, “I am tired, I have a headache, and my nose is stuffy," because she is usually tired and is allergic to our Chihuahuas
  • Let dogs out (they have tiny bladders)
















7:45 a.m.              
  • Encourage Antonia to get ready for school
  • Pack her lunch (Same as Sophia's)
  • Let Dogs in
  • Play Fashion Story, WordFeud, Words with Friends; fold laundry (if necessary), Tweet, read something online and share to Twitter or email via Shareaholic           
8:20 a.m.              
  • Yell to Antonia’s bedroom that she has to be at school in five minutes

8:25 a.m. 
  • Frantically put Antonia’s lunchbox into her backpack that she carries from her room once she emerges
                            
 8:26 a.m.               
  • Yell things like “I love you!” and “Have a great day!” very loudly out the door to Antonia as she walks down the street heading towards school
 8:25 a.m.               
  •  Let dogs out

               

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Good Morning





A sunny October morning in Bexley, Ohio.  I drove up to my house after dropping off my daughter at school and noticed, not for the first time, that the house needs painted.  I entered through the front door into the tiny living space to find my younger daughter sitting at the kitchen table staring down at her plate which held a cookie dough flavored Balance bar.  It was accompanied by a red Fiestaware coffee cup full of 2% milk.  She was still waking up.  I couldn't decide if I wanted to finish making her lunch, check to see if anyone made a move on WordFeud, or go to the bathroom.  So I let the dogs out.  It had been at least 20 minutes since they ate and surely it was time to offer them some relief of their little organs.  With Scruffy, Tina, and Frodo outside yapping at the wind and annoying the neighbors, I decided to ask Antonia if she wanted the straightener plugged in.  I thought she may feel better about the day if her hair was done.  She typically just brushes it and it looks good--she's beautiful--but I was attempting to be a supportive mother.  "What would help her through the day?"  And unlike the exterior of the house which will have to be put on hold, her exterior can be updated, or spruced up, in order to maintain hope throughout a busy autumn school day.  I felt it was the least I could do to contribute to her mood.  To help elevate it and make her energized and excited about life.  Sometimes, moms can't leave well enough alone, for she typically perks up in time to leave for school and walks with a spring in her step for the entire one block journey.  It's just those moments when I think there may be something less than happy abound, I need to fix it.  Even though I know better.